• Skip to main content
T12_Logo
  • COVID-19 Update
  • Donate
  • Get Started
  • Let’s Chat
  • About
    • Mission
    • Team
    • Careers at Tribe 12
    • Blog
    • Contact
  • Experiences
    • Upcoming
    • Find Your Tribe
    • Anytime
  • Things We Love
  • Matchmaking
  • LGBTQIA+
  • Tribe 12 Fellowship
    • 2022 Fellowship
      • Important Dates
      • Launch Night: Sponsorship
      • FAQ
      • Apply!
    • Alumni
  • Donate
  • COVID-19 Update

Jewish Wisdom

Why I’m Obsessed with the Seder

March 25, 2022 by Megan GoldMarche

Like many mostly-extroverted people, I love a good dinner party; I love the idea of people sitting around for hours over good food and wine talking about deep things, sharing stories, reminiscing and maybe even singing. And the most magical thing is, that at a great dinner party, a group of strangers can leave as friends. So it’s no surprise that my favorite Jewish ritual is the ultimate dinner party: the Passover seder. Hours of storytelling, four cups of wine, multiple courses of food, and as we learn in the Haggadah (from a group of wild rabbis who recounted the exodus from Egypt for so long that their students had to come tell them it was time for the morning prayers), the longer the seder goes the more KfP (Kosher for Passover) brownie points we get in God’s book. 

Which leads to the story of my longest seder, where I sat around with a crew of rabbis and friends into the wee hours of the night. It was my last year of rabbinical school and we gathered in an apartment in Columbia University graduate student housing. Each attendee planned a part of the seder and with 25 eager folks, there was a lot to cover. I had walked the 15 minutes from my apartment in the early evening in flip flops and a tank top, enjoying the balmy warmth of a mid April day. But when it was time to walk home after helping my hosts clean (around 4 am) the ground was covered in snow! We had discussed the exodus until the seasons had changed!

So now you know that my dream seder is long and deep with meaning, the wine is plentiful and the carpas (dipping appetizer) course has enough apps so that no one is mad that the main meal begins at midnight. Of course, I have learned that not everyone wants an eight hour seder (including my own wife and in-laws! In fact, our parents met for the first time at a seder I hosted and my father-in-law was very jealous that my dad felt comfortable to just nap through the long discussion from his reclining spot). But in my many years of seder attending, planning and hosting, I have learned a few things I am excited to share. Because no matter the length of your seder there are a few things that make a seder magical:

  1. Be present. Turn your phone off. Decide how long you can be present and just be in the moment for that time. I would say at least two hours is a good guideline if you are able!
  2. Ask questions. Whether you are the youngest attendee asking the official four questions, someone older or in between, ask any question that pops into your head during the seder. This will make you the dream guest and everyone else will benefit from your asking! When I was in college my family attended a seder in Jerusalem hosted by an Orthodox friend of mine and her family. My dad and brother were asking questions every five minutes and the hosts were overjoyed – we found ourselves walking home at 1 am! 
  • Be vulnerable. This is at least half of why I love the wine element of the seder (the rabbis have a saying “the wine goes in, the secrets come out”), but you don’t need wine for vulnerability. Come ready to learn, like I said above, don’t be ashamed of what you don’t know. Be ready to share yourself and receive from others in return.
  • Meet someone new or get to know someone in a new way. I always like to have new faces at my seder, but even the one year that I was just with my immediate family (at the Mayo clinic before my mom’s stem cell transplant), I made sure to get to know new things about them over the seder evening.
  • Eat good food. (I think this one is self explanatory)
  • Connect to our history and connect that history to the present. Every Jewish person is obligated on seder night to see themselves as one who personally was freed from Egypt, so make sure you do that, but also use that as an opportunity to think about who in our society is not free today and renew your commitment to do something about it.

At the end of the seder we say next year in Jerusalem. This year I will say “next year in Philadelphia” (as my family prepares to move to the city in May!) I hope to host many of you at my table in the coming years – and I promise to let you go home before the seasons change!

 

Some of Rabbi Megan’s favorite Seder Resources:

  • What should I put on a seder plate? https://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/the-seder-plate/
  • What else can go on your seder plate?
  • https://www.kveller.com/10-unique-items-to-add-to-your-seder-plate/
  • Make your own Haggadah- https://www.haggadot.com/

 

More Resources for your seders: 

One Table Passover Resources (including an abridged Hagaddah I helped create last year!)

Youtube virtual seder hannel

Seder Plate: New Imaginations from HIAS https://www.hias.org/sites/default/files/hias_illustrated_journeys_seder_plate.pdf

Understanding the Seder Plate through the lens of Mental Health https://www.haggadot.com/clip/mental-health-interpretations-of-the-seder-plate

Welcoming people to our seder https://www.haggadot.com/clip/welcoming-all-an-inclusive-passover-reading-1

Yachatz-What is still broken? https://www.haggadot.com/clip/the-matzah-of-peace

A Woman’s Dayenu https://www.haggadot.com/haggadah/womens-seder-1

For a haggadah of Inclusion-Understanding all our children https://www.haggadot.com/haggadah/inclusion-haggadah-0

Filed Under: Adulting, Cool Stuff, Culture, Jewish Wisdom, Philly Tagged With: 20somethings, 30somethings, creative, fun, holiday, Jewish, Passover, Philadelphia, Philly

Philly Purim Guide 2022

March 3, 2022 by Kayli Modell

Purim is officially around the corner which means it’s time to break out your favorite costumes (who’s showing up as Gritty??), eat delicious hamentashen cookies and celebrate until dawn! We’ve created a guide of some of the best Philly Purim festivities and spots to grab those tasty treats. Know of any Philly Purim activities or foodie spots to add to our list? Email kayli@tribe12.org!

Week of Purim

Thursday, March 10th

• 8 PM: Hamentashen Bake-a-long with Tribe 12’s new Executive Director

Monday, March 14th

• 8 PM: Biblical Babes – Esther with At The Well

Tuesday, March 15th

• 5 PM: Hamentaschen Making with Moishe House Philadelphia
• 8 PM: A Celebration of Persian Jewish Music in Honor of Purim with The Weitzman National Museum of American Jewish History

Wednesday, March 16th

• 6 PM: Erev Purim Megillah Reading and Purim Shpiel with Congregation Rodeph Shalom
• 7 PM: Monte Carlo Purim Masquerade 2022 with The Chevra
• 8 PM: West Philadelphia Orchestra’s Purim Party

Thursday, March 17th

• 5:30 PM: Purim Block Party with BZBI and Mekor Habracha
• 6 PM: Philly Purim Festival 2022 with RSJ Moishe House Philly

Week after Purim

Sunday, March 20th

• 1:30 PM: Purim Car and Walking Parade & Mitzvah Food Program Drive with The Jewish Federation of Greater Philadelphia

Monday, March 21st

• 7 PM: Hamentaschen Monologues Discussion with Moishe House Philadelphia

Thursday, March 24th

• 7 PM: Jews and Brews – Purim with Moishe House Philadelphia and Jewish Grad Network

Anytime

• Host a Purim themed Shabbat dinner with OneTable
• See Marc Chagall’s “Purim” painting at the Philadelphia Art Museum

Hamentashen Fix

• Lil’ Yenta’s at Biedermans Grocery (starting March 9th),  V Marks the Shop (starting March 14th) and with Hamentashen for Ukraine (weekend of March 12th)
• Essen Bakery with Hamentashen for Ukraine (March 5th – 20th)
• Lipkin’s Bakery
• Kaplan’s New Model Bakery
• Hymie’s Delicatessen

Filed Under: Cool Stuff, Culture, Jewish Wisdom, Philly, Social, Uncategorized Tagged With: 20somethings, 30somethings, fun, game, holiday, Jewish, mingle, party, Philadelphia, Philly, Purim, Social

Why do the Tribe 12 Fellowship?

November 4, 2021 by Kayli Modell

   
By Michael Saks 

This upcoming class will be the 12th class of the Tribe 12 Fellowship. I’ve seen many entrepreneurs, myself included, come through the program and build up things they were passionate about – whether they were ideas, products, or programs. 

Are you contemplating applying? Here’s some advice.

1. Find something you’re passionate about.

          a. If you’re not passionate about it, why should others be?

2. An idea is a seed – and just like seeds, ideas will grow.

          a. A lot can happen and change over 4 months.

3. Be open to suggestions and feedback.

          a. You might be so close to the idea that you might be missing something.

          b. Someone might suggest something that’ll make your idea even better.

4. It doesn’t need to be a finished product when the program is done.

          a. Unless your venture has already taken shape prior to the program, 4                    months may not finish it, but it’ll help catapult it towards the future.

5. You get out what you put in.

          a. It’s not supposed to be easy but it’s not impossible. Hard work pays off.

6. Use your fellow entrepreneurs.

          a. They might see something you didn’t or there might be a future                              partnership.

7. Ask questions.

          a. You don’t know what you don’t know. Questions only help you identify                  how your venture will take shape.

8. Talk to alumni.

          a. There’s plenty of them who’ve made their side hustle their main hustle. 

9. Be flexible.

          a. The class of 2020 had to pivot some of their ventures and were able to                grow because of it.

 

 

Filed Under: Adulting, Entrepreneurs, Fellows, Jewish Wisdom, Professional, Uncategorized Tagged With: fellowship, Jewish, networking, Philadelphia, professional development

Gender Diversity is Divinely Jewish

May 17, 2021 by Davinica Nemtzow

By Lex Pe’er Horwitz (they/them)

There is nothing more beautiful than starting your journey to discovering and nurturing your true self. 

Learning about our inner most desires and needs presents us with the glorious opportunity to live our lives to the fullest as our authentic, divine selves. After all, we are created in g-d’s image, which means we are meant to be the fabulous perfectly imperfect human beings that we are. 

As a proud Jewish human, when I came to my queer sexuality and gender identity in college, I was fearful that I would not be understood—that I would be invisible as the real me—and that I would no longer be accepted, loved or supported by my Jewish community. I wondered, “Do I still have a place in Judaism? In the community that I love—the community that raised me and fully formed me into the beautifully complex human being I am today? Will I be loved as me in all my queerness or despite being queer?” Overwhelmed, I was too scared to seek out the answers for myself. 

Growing up, I had never heard the term “transgender” or “non-binary” or “queer” in my religious spaces—let alone my secular spaces—and this absence of visible queer and trans folx in my life, paired with the non-existent conversation on gender diversity and sexuality in mainstream Jewish media reinforced my false belief that there wasn’t a loving space for me as a queer, gender transcendent Jewish human.

But oh how wrong I was! One day, my childhood Hebrew school friend tagged me in a post on Facebook with the title “The 8 Genders of the Talmud”.* Upon viewing, my jaw dropped, my face lit up with excitement, my heart imploded with joy, warmth radiated throughout my soul, and my mind expanded with curiosity as a galaxy of glitter and pixie dust took over my being—I felt the tension from years of internalized fear drain out of my body through the tears of relief that rolled down my cheeks. As I exhaled, it felt as if the world was holding me, carving space for me to live my truth with my community, not as an outsider peering in. It was as if my being was elevating to a sacred plane of existence where I was not only understood, but valued as the true me. In that very moment, everything changed for me—not only does Judaism understand gender diversity, but Judaism affirms and supports genderqueer existence at it’s core.

So today, I am here to share some of the resources that have guided my personal journey to exploring gender diversity and fluidity in Judaism. My hope is that this resource is a stepping stone in your journey to learning how trans and gender diverse identities have deep roots in Judaism. To all of my transgender, non-binary, and genderqueer Jewish siblings, I hope that these resources help you break free from the false belief that we do not have a place in Judaism, a fear that stems from internalized Western imperialist binary thinking (a topic that deserves it’s own article, something we can dive into as a part 2). I am by no means an expert, simply a passionate Jewish LGBTQ+ educator and activist, so in order to provide you with the most accurate and detailed information, I am going to send you directly to the experts themselves.


Resources

Keshet

Keshet is a one-stop-shop for all things LGBTQ+ Jews could need, with their resource library ranging from information on Jewish texts and tradition (including Torah Queeries!), LGBTQ+ holidays and life cycles, coming out, family and parenting, how to support transgender and non-binary people, community inclusion guides (including printable signs and stickers!), and even advocacy and allyship opportunities!

TransTorah.org

TransTorah was created by Rabbi Elliot Kula and Rabbi Reuben Zelleman to collect accessible trans and genderqueer Jewish resources. TransTorah serves as a clearinghouse for gender affirming rituals (such as a transgender and gender-nonconforming wedding service, a blessing for gender transition and a prayer for binding one’s chest), essays, serums, and poems, videos, and art. 

Nonbinary Hebrew Project

Created by Lior Gross in 2018, the Nonbinary Hebrew Project is a free open-source Hebrew grammatical system that allows nonbinary Hebrew-speakers to speak in the first person without misrepresenting their gender. They’ve written out many of the common prayers in Hebrew and transliteration so you can use this resource even if you’re not fluent! They’ve also compiled resources on modern LGBTQIA+ Jewish efforts, gender expansiveness in traditional Jewish texts, and gender neutral language options for languages around the world.

Transgender Rabbis

Looking for inspirational transgender rabbis? Check out Profiling the First Generation of Transgender Rabbis, which introduces and shares the stories of 6 transgender rabbis and rabbinical students. 


For some, being recognized in sacred texts may not impact your relationship to Judaism, but for others like myself, being validated by these texts is world changing. These texts are more than just religious doctrine—they work as a road map to our cultural and historical wealth as Jewish people and with that they carry spiritual, moral, and many times pragmatic guidance to our everyday lives. When we as LGBTQ+ beings are not recognized, validated, supported, or uplifted as our authentic selves by the communities we call home, it is beyond heartbreaking. By showing you the presence of gender diverse representations and understandings in Judaism, I want you to know that you are beautiful the way you are, you are loved for being you, and there has always been a space for you in Judaism. I hope you never change your true self for others. And, rather paradoxically, I also want you to know that your validity is never determined by the acceptance, understanding, or affirmation of religion, your respective communities or societal standards—you are valid simply because you are you. Luckily, as trans, non-binary and genderqueer Jews, we can have our cake and eat it too. We do not have to choose between being our authentic selves or our religion because we are represented in every level of Judaism, from our classical texts, to our secular and religious leaders, to the many community spaces like our very own Tribe 12 LGBTQIA+ community that are designed by and for queer Jews.

Be proud of who you are, and know I am proud of you too.


*As incredible as all of these resources are, it is important to note that there is conflation between sex (i.e., female, male, intersex, non-binary) and gender (i.e., woman, man, non-binary, genderfluid, genderqueer, etc.). However, sex is not the same identity as gender. Sex is a combination of bodily characteristics including chromosomes, hormones, internal and external reproductive organs and secondary sex characteristics. Someone’s gender is their innermost concept of self as being a woman, man, blend of both, or neither. Your gender identity is how you perceive yourself and what you call yourself.

About the Author

Lex Pe’er Horwitz (they/them) is a queer, gender transcendent Jewish LGBTQ+ Educator, Activist, Model, and Public Speaker based out of Philadelphia where they live with their two senior special needs fur babies, Saboo and Lady Tooth. Lex received their B.A. in Psychology and Gender, Sexuality, and Women’s Studies from Bowdoin College, where they competed as the first out transgender athlete in all of collegiate squash and as the first out trans athlete at Bowdoin. Their advocacy focuses on educating allies and members of the queer community on LGBTQ+ identities, topics, and issues through a multitude of pathways–facilitations, workshops, lectures, one-on-one support, and consultation services to name a few. Lex’s goal is to provide a judgement-free safe space for all people to engage in critical conversation about gender, sexuality, and community. You can learn more about Lex and access their free educational resources on their website. Stay connected and follow Lex’s journey through Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, Patreon, and YouTube.

Filed Under: Adulting, Cool Stuff, Dating, Jewish Wisdom

A Chametz-Heavy Shabbat Guide

March 19, 2021 by Micah Symons

Passover’s just a week away, so regardless if you’re cleaning out your kitchen, here’s a whole bunch of ways to use a whole bunch of Chametz

 

Filed Under: Adulting, Culture, Jewish Wisdom

Shabbat (And Pre-Pre-Passover) Guide

March 12, 2021 by Micah Symons

I’ve got Shabbat (and Passover) on my mind… Hope you do too!

 

Filed Under: Adulting, Cool Stuff, Culture, Jewish Wisdom

  • Go to page 1
  • Go to page 2
  • Go to page 3
  • Interim pages omitted …
  • Go to page 7
  • Go to Next Page »

Connect with Us

Join Our Mailing List

yo@tribe12.org
267-652-0088

1900 Market St., Floor 8
Philadelphia PA 19103

Careers at Tribe 12 | Donate
© 2022 Tribe 12. All Rights Reserved | Design by Spacious